Many people naturally have sex dreams, the content of which can occasionally be alarming. However, sex dreams aren't necessarily straightforward.
Why Do People Have Sex Dreams?
One school of thought says that when you attempt to or have sex with someone in your dreams, you really want something they have. It could be money, power, a happy relationship, or something else that you want in the waking world. Longing for emotional closeness might result in sex dreams, the ultimately of physical closeness.
Because these dreams aren't really about sex, you shouldn't be concerned if your brain inserts someone unexpected, such as an ex or a family member, into your sex dreams. Remember that dream analysis isn't an exact science. We're trying to develop theories that make sense, but our dreams are bizarre in plenty of ways, even if they include some elements from the real world. If your dreams open your eyes to the potential of someone as a lover or romantic partner, and you think there's potential, you can always try to make them a reality!
On the other hand, sex dreams may very clearly be about someone to whom you're attracted. Dreamland may be the only place where you get to be with the object of your desires. Or you might have steamy dreams about your partner because you just can't get enough of them. If you wake up from a sex dream about your lover, you might just be able to continue the action!
What Happens to Your Body During Sex Dreams?
Sexy dreams may also result because of what your body is doing. For example, guys can get erections and even ejaculate while they sleep. It's known as having a wet dream and might cause a sleeping person to dream about sex. Similarly, hormone fluctuations and even uterine contractions can lead to sex dreams for women. The reverse is also possible, too. You might have a sex dream that kicks your body into action, leading you to wake up hard, wet, or covered in cum.
Why Your Sexy Dreams Don't Involve Sex
Don't be surprised if your sexy acts never get to the main course. For some people, sex dreams are all about the foreplay, which can be a little frustrating. But your brain might not be able to take you any further if your body isn't being stimulated.
How to Have Sex Dreams
If you don't naturally have sex dreams, you can try to have them by immersing yourself in sexy media (movies, stories, porn, etc.) before bedtime. Masturbating before sleep might also give you sex dreams. There's no guarantee that these actions will work, but you can still have fun trying!